Mental health is really important because you need to learn how to take care of yourself but also help your friends, and families so they are not alone. My best friend was dealing with anxiety and depression from middle school through college. She had been dealing with it since she was gay because it was hard for her to express and she was always overthinking about how people would treat her, talk to her, and friendships. Her parents took her to counseling to talk about her feelings because she didn’t know how to deal with them in public. When I go to her house I would take her out and do something fun. Sometimes I would invite her siblings, she has one older sister, one older brother, and one younger brother. All of us would go to the mall or drive somewhere where we don’t know where we are going but at least we wouldn’t be at the house which sometimes made it worse for her. There is one thing that we haven’t done but we really want to do it at some point but all of us want to go to Boston for the day. Yes, we all had been to Boston but never downtown Boston. In school we never had the same classes but we would talk between classes and lunch time. We would talk about school and friends. It is hard to see your best friend deal with mental health and I know everyone can see it. She had a lot of anxiety when she told her parents that she was gay. She told everyone but it was difficult for her to tell people about it. It is hard to deal with mental health in public, at home, with friends that you hang out with all the time. When she told everyone that she was gay she had anxiety because she didn’t know how people would react to her.
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What challenges did I encounter as I learned to be supportive of my friend? To become the best version of myself, I had to go through a little bit to get there.
When she told me that she was gay in 7th grade, she was really scared to tell me about because we weren’t close at the time, but I told her that she could tell me anything and I wouldn’t be upset or anything. I was really confused when she told me that she was gay, and I really didn’t understand what she meant by being gay and everything else. At first, I didn’t understand that my best friend was gay and how she knew about herself being gay. It was hard for me to support my best friend because I didn’t know what to do and how to be there when she was struggling in general. She was having a hard time telling her parents about her being gay so I would go to her house with her and be there when she told her parents that she was gay. She was crying when she told her parents, and she would look at me and I would help her and hug her if her parents didn’t support her. When I talk to her parents about it and how to help her in life. Her parents would tell me to support her and love her as my best friend. Her parents were glad that she had me as her best friend because she didn’t have a lot of friends who were supporting her in school or in public places in general. I didn’t know what to do at first, but I tried my best to support her as much as I could. I would look online about gay information and learn about it. On the internet research process was how to support my best friend who is gay? What is gay? Why people are gay? I would talk with my parents about it. My parents would explain to me what is gay and how to be supportive to my friend. My parents would go over information with me about gay stuff and how to be there. Over the years I have learned a lot about pride, being gay, and everything that I didn’t know about the first time that I heard of it. I went to gay pride parade in Boston for the first time in my life and I was surprised on how many people came and were gay. My experience of going to the parade was really exciting. Don’t get me wrong I was really nervous at first, but at the end of the parade it was a lot of fun. I met a lot of people there. A lot of people thought I was gay, but I wasn’t, but it made me feel good to know that other people cared about you even though I was only there to support my best friend. There was a lot of gay people who had their friends or family with them at the parade. I am glad that I got this opportunity to do stuff with my best friend that I never thought that I would do.
How did I support my gay best friend and her family?
I met my best friend in 7th grade homeroom. We were sitting in the back together and on the first day of school we introduce ourselves and became close friend ever since. I supported my best friend by going to her house, going to the events like gay pride parade in Boston, and travel around the world. I would be with my friend all the time so she wouldn’t be bullied in school. When she was bullied in school, I would stick up for her because sometimes she can’t stick up for herself. If people are talking about her, she is afraid to stick up to people and it is hard for me to see that. People are very rude in general. Sometimes I cry at night because of how people are rude to others and it’s not fair. We are very close to each other, and I am glad that I can help her whatever she needs. She does have friends but not a lot so she would always come to me, and I will be there no matter what. I know that mental health is hard on people because they are trying to figure out who they are.
I supported her family by going to her house all the time. Her family called me a family because I am there all the time. I was glad that she has brothers and sisters to support her too so its not just me. I am glad that her parents can support her and know that she isn’t alone at home because she has that supported from her family. Sometimes her family would come to the events with us. Her family would come with us to the gay pride parade in Boston and I loved that because it shows how much her family supported her. I was glad that other parents were there at the event because they can connect and everything. Her family invited me to go to Brazil with them during the summer and it was a lot of fun because I met her aunts and uncles. I was glad that I was be able to do these things for her and her family. She would come to my house all the time too. My parents would be supported her too. My dad got a gay flag to know that he is supporting everyone who is gay including my best friend.
I love going to gay pride parade with my best friend because I can understand more of what is going on around the world. My friend and I have experience bullied in school. A lot of people would bully us in school. I love going to pride parade with my friend because it makes me feel good to know that there are other people, and she can connect to and talk to because I know that there is some part that I don’t understand because I am not gay. Sometimes we would go to Florida and see her friends. We would go to Tampa, Florida. We are planning another trip to go to California together hopefully next year. We are hoping to go to gay stuff, and I know that she has one friend there so we will go to their house and hang out with her. Her friend will take us to everywhere so we can experience what fun stuff is there to do in California. We like to go to the beach, see a movie, and car rides. I think we are good friends because both of us understand each other. We both like animals, sports, going to the beach, and take a long car ride.